Success is defined differently for everyone…unless we let others define success for us. Then we are succeeding in what they are calling success. To begin, we must know our parameters of success.
You can read a post from June 2014 from the Business Insider that compiled some soundbites from people you might recognize. Here is what some of them said about success:
Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.
– John Wooden
Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.
– Maya Angelou
The more you’re actively and practically engaged, the more successful you will feel.
– Richard Branson
And another one of my personal favorites:
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
– Mark Twain
It is with this idea of sailing away from the safe harbor that I ask you this question:
How Do You Define Success?
I just walked you through a Goal-Setting Workshop that I began using in late 2014. It really has changed the way I see success. For myself, I have been able to touch success daily.
I define success as achieving your goals. Pretty simple right? I was pretty close to one of the definitions online: “T
We must have goals first then, right? My goals direct my success. If my goal is to be a great husband, then my success comes when my wife affirms my attempts! Of course, this example doesn’t ever terminate!
If my goal is to coach a soccer team to the State Tournament Finals, then my success comes when we are in that State Final Game. Everything I do with the players I have to work with should give us the best opportunity to be in that State Tournament Final game.
On the other hand, if my goal is to coach a soccer team, and develop young athletes to become more mature in the game and more mature in relationships, the measurement changes and the journey changes, therefore, the experience changes.
I have decided to hang up the soccer boots and move on to what’s next. That begs to ask the question, “What are my goals?” Because I can’t get to where I’m going if I don’t know where I’m headed, right?
I wanted to share with you another way to think about where you’re headed…
I know I am being successful when…
That takes some time to think about ways to complete this phrase, but I believe the work will be worth it. I’ll share one of the ways I have decided to complete this sentence.
I am able to create jobs.
That’s one way I know I am being successful.
I’m not there, but that’s where I’m headed. I have worked my way back to today and looked at my current circumstances. For 2015, I am really digging in to action points that will help me have the ability to create jobs. It has definitely been an exciting proposition!
I ask you the same question I have been challenged with:
How would you complete this sentence: I know I am being successful when…
It doesn’t have to be far off in the distant future. It can be something you are doing right now. Maybe your definition of success is, “I know I am being successful when my dog wags his tail when I get home.” That’s a pretty good one! Maybe you would say, “I know I am being successful when I can cheer on my favorite sports team from my favorite seat.” Maybe you would say, “I know I am being successful when I sit with a friend over tea and relate deeply any day of the week.” Here are some more “I know I’m being successful when…” ideas.
If you need help with steps towards those goals, connect with someone who’s already been there. Learn the in’s and out’s from them. Get great at going where you’re going. Then get growing!
I heard someone say once, “People get excited to contribute once they have had a chance to experience it, not talk about it.” I think there is a lot of truth to this for you and me as we go after what’s next. It’s exciting to contribute. It’s fulfilling to experience. Talk is cheap.
Let’s throw off the bowlines. Let’s catch some trade winds. Let’s Connect. Let’s Learn. Let’s Conquer. Let’s Grow.
How would you complete the sentence, “I know I’m being successful when…”?